Wednesday, February 6, 2008

marriage

for those who have hold their silence forever
ink and paper
01/07


it seemed like lost friends are beginning to come out of their shells lately.

last night, borgy invited me to meet up, to have dinner and drinks. its been months since we've last saw each another. so how could i refused?

he would probably be my best buddy during under graduate and even up to now. although we don't have the same interest aside from red alert, war craft and our hectic schedule, we still, in a way, keep in touch.

we were blockmates, roomates and even applied for the same law school after college. unfortunately, i was admitted in mendiola campus. while he was in alabang. when i left law school almost a year ago, i was surprised when he affirmed to me that he also filed for a leave of absence for this semester, which i really find normal for law students. but for borg, its more of a tactic to be retained in the school. such a smart ass!

nonetheless, after updating about ourselves. we came up talking about some common friends and were surprised to know that a number of them have already settled and began starting a family of their own. the word marriage for me has always been a big word. all because of the word life-long commitment associated with it. although i have already surpassed my stage of non-commitment relationships, the weight of the word still has great bearing to me. basically, i find the word very troublesome before. simply because it entails a wide array of risks. knowing the personality i have, i am not a good risk taker. i wanted every decisions i make to be a win-win situation. ideal as it may seems, but i could no longer afford to lose the remains of my ego. but then again it was before. now, i've realized that whenever you make wrong decisions or risks, you actually lose something but you gain more. this gains would actually assist you on how to handle more risks that you may go across along the way.

now, borgy is presently commited on a 2 year relationship with her girlfriend, who left for the us last september. despite having a long distance relationship, borgy told me he is still willing to take the risk. he argued that the longer you haven't seen the person the more you miss her presence.

from that point, i just lashed my pulse infront of him.

13 comments:

jericho said...

self-preservation ba? hehe. sagutin mo na rin tanong ko. hindi naman ako ma-o-offend kung sakali... haha

wanderingcommuter said...

hahaha. hindi naman.pero pwede rin. kasi iba rin naman ang concepto ko sa crush because we are on a different age.

Carl said...

uyy... magkadebelopan kayo dyan ha. XD

lahat din ng mga kaklase ko nagsipag asawa na. hayy... parang di pa ako ganun ka selfless para magasawa.

ikaw, kelan ka ba mag aasawa, kafatid?

wanderingcommuter said...

carl: naka naman! hahaha. wala pa sa isip ko yan...lets burn the bridge when we get there. nyahahaha!

Bulaang Katotohanan said...

marriage? banned in my dictionary...nyahahaha

hmm...cant say much as im ambivalent towards it...commitment, gastos, pagiinarte, hiwalayan, etc...

Kiks Phulumulu said...

marriage. coming out.

naubo ako.

DN said...

mahirap lumagay ulit sa buhay na maingay kapag lumagay ka na sa buhay na tahimik. lalo na sa pilipinas. lol.

icka said...

madaling magdrawing ng marriage sa utak. mahirap burahin pagnagkamali.

wanderingcommuter said...

bulaangkatotohanan: i never taught that the concept of marriage could be so this pessimistic among people now adays.

kiks: what do you mean?

dn: subalit hindi ba nakakarindi ang sobrang katahimikan? hehehe.

icka: thats another way of saying, ang kasal ay hidni parang isang mainit na kanin na pwede mo'ng iluwa kapag napaso ka. hahaha

Bulaang Katotohanan said...

sigh...lets just say, im trying to be practical...di na me kukuha ng bato na ipupukol sa ulo ko ng paulit-ulit dahil nakatali kami sa isat isa.

wanderingcommuter said...

bulaangkatotohanan: its that your final answer???!hehehe

DN said...

tunay ngang nakakarindi ang labis na katahimikan. sa aking palagay, hindi na dapat lumagay sa tahimik ang mga taong madaling mainis sa kawalan ng ingay. ^^

wanderingcommuter said...

dn: i am a big believer that anything in excess is bad. but come to think of it, whoever coined the expression, ang pag aasawa ay paglagay sa katahimikan, probably had a corpse for a couple. because in reality hindi naman tahimik kapag nagpakasal ka eh. in the irony, mas maingay pa siya keysa nung wala ka pang asawa. if you know what i mean? hahahaha!