Thursday, July 10, 2008

an awkward moment

have you ever experienced a friend or someone approaching with an unusual expression in his/her face? forehead dripping with round sweat. eyes looking down differently from the way it used to be. indefinite body movement. feet as heavy as anvils. by the time s/he is standing infront of you, s/he'll look at you.

then you'll ask, " is there a problem? you don't look the usual."

there is an awkward silence for a moment.

lips will open but words will hesistate to come out. until finally s/he utters, "i love you."


because i haven't. nonetheless, what if such will happen to you without you expecting it? how will you react? what will you do?

the other day, a friend talked to me about thinking of confessing his feelings to a friend. basically, we made a run down, plans and probable actions to take on all circumstances that may happen upon the actual event. i never received any outcomes of the event yet.but then i came up with the weirdest idea, i wondered what if i am the person that my friend is referring to. thus, i am writing it now.

based from experience, i can say that despite everything about me and modesty aside, there were still a number of individuals who fell for me. nonetheless, they never really confronted me face-to-face (probably because they knew that i hate being confronted). rather they have relayed these to common friends. luckily, i know where the loyalty of my friends stand.

it was indeed quite ackward at first. for the first time within your friendship, you don't know what to do and say the next time you'll meet again. everything is taken in consideration with extreme cautious and sensitivity because you don't really want them to take it differently, right? but i believe that it is way different from what it used to be if you'll be confronted face-to-face. for the event requires you an immediate reaction. for rationality could no longer hide the spontaneity that is being asked out of a very brief time. you might be nailed from where your standing. even your words might fail you. but still a reaction is compelled to be given out.

everything about this may remain mystery for now, atleast for me. but who knows, probably it might come out infront of you after reading this. if that will happen, please, just don't forget to share it as well. atleast for everyone's sake.

32 comments:

dabo said...

Nauna ako yipee! (yun nga lang di ako nagbasa haahahha!)

Lance said...

nice post..
when it was my first time to court a girl, it was truly terrible. I couldn't even believe I surpassed it. but in the case that you are the one being confronted, well, if it's really your close friend, I'd say mahirap talaga.
I have a bestfriend right now, and she's cute and all that, tapos we're sharing our problems sa lovelife to each other. who knows i might just fall for her or she will to me? gugmang giatay jud! hehehe
gudlack nalng bai!

Lance said...

by the way, thanks for always checking on my page.. i'd never miss a single post from you from now on...

odin hood said...

... ewik ....

... i have something to tell you..

.. i ..

...i ...

...i need some money, pwede pautang?

LOL joke!

mel beckham said...

That happened to me already. Last year lang. My immediate reaction was: 'I'm sorry Orlando, but you're still dating Kate Bosworth. Ayokong maging kabit.
Chos!

Naku hindi mangyayari sa akin yan. Pramis! Hihi

WHITE said...

aw! your entry is bringing back memories....experienced it twice.....nung wafu pa ako
lol

Bulaang Katotohanan said...

the first time...kala ko langit na, di mabura ngiti ko hehehe.

thanks for making me remember the good memories...

Mugen said...

Basta ako marunong akong bumasa ng signs when someone is into me. Pero shempre expert ako sa pakiramdaman. Thats why i let my hands talk in public. Lol.

Seriously, mahirap ang confrontation. I feel awkward when someone confronts me with their feelings...

...before.

gillboard said...

hmmm... I think the word is awkward... sorry ha..

this is an awkward situation for me. :D

ced said...

i had couple... okay maybe 4 experiences that someone confronted me.

pero i remember the one when i was still an intern in a hospital and it was a duty on christmas eve. i was talking to a friend who's also a co-intern. i was talking of how will i pursue a girl when she suddenly told me to stop and be sensitive to her feelings. then she told me she likes me.

i just told her she's like a younger sister i never had. and i'm glad we're really close.

yung iba, same explanation lng ginawa ko. hehehe

pero pag ako na nanlilgaw nako, hahaha, super torpe pa naman ako. mixed signals tuloy. hehehe

Anino said...

Ako, umiiwas kapag sinabihan ako ng ganyang kataga. Mas makabubuti pang hindi na lang nila inamin sa akin.

Maraming beses na kasi.

Hahaha.

khentutz said...

hmmm...

honesty is the best policy sbi nila. un nga lang it could risk the friendship you had. hay mahirap yan. goodluck

KRIS JASPER VAN DYKE said...

take it with a pinch of salt. thank that person for his/her emotions: love and care...

but u dont have to reciprocate it back if you dont feel the same; you cant force yourself in a relationship just for the thrill of it.

Bino/Geno said...

I also don't know what to do when someone said she loves me. I shrugged it off. Hehe.

damdam said...

a friend (very close friend) na nag confese na he loves me, e hindi mutal yung feelings namin, ayun ang lumabas sa bibig ko ay...
... thank you...
then i just smiled. (ang sama ko..) but nice post! memory lane ako bigla.

♥nova-san said...

I have had a confrontation like that a few times in my life. It's more than awkward, and a potential end to a friendship.

One time, the confession came in the form of a Christmas card. My close friend of nearly fifteen years confessed on Christmas his feelings for me. Because he knew that I did not return the feelings in that regard, he stopped all contact with me. It was a painful and heartbreaking end to a long friendship. The thing too, was that he did not give me an opportunity to react. It was just a card delivered on my doorstep, and left for me to read in private without any chance to react.

The other time, the confession came in person, but that person was so sexy, that we ended up in bed hahaha. No long term relationship ever came out of it, but we are closer now than ever, and we are each other's best friend. Okay, so maybe that wasn't a confession of love, but rather of lust... but hey, it's close enough, no? hehehe

pensucks said...

ehe.. medyo bitin. pero ok na din, napadaan lang.

wanderingcommuter said...

dabo: as usual... hahaha. joke lang.

lance: yun na nga eh. its always a matter of lesser evil. either you lose the friendship or you love in return but in force. but come to think of it the latter would basically end up with the former right?... uhm, sorry the last sentences are all greek to me. hehehe.
no problem dude! you deserve it.

odin: yun lang! wala tayo niyan... hahaha...

mel: maniniwala na sana ako. hehehe. bakit naman hindi? who knows... mamaya baka masurprise ka!

white: wafu means? hahahaha... is bringing back memories a good thing or bad thing?

bk: hahaha... gusto kong malaman ang kwento mo...

mugen: naks, bumalik si bagyong frank! hehehe. jk.

gillboard: typo ng keyboard... hahaha...

ced:AWWW!!! seriously?!? hanga ako sa guts ng kaibigan mo. atleast, its a good thing na you're still in good terms...

anino: magsama kayo ni mugen!!! hahahaha...

khentutz: you can say that again... pero yun nga. sa akin naman, i don't want to live my entire life asking "what ifs" on the other side, ang risky naman kasi masyado.

kj: probably your comment would be the best move i've heard so far...

bino: hahaha.... i can imagine... details!

damdam: how are you now with the guy?

nova: don't worry my lips are sealed. tell me more about it pagdating mo... hahaha. just can't wait. what i can say on the other hand, probably its something more with the culture. because here in the philippines. since most people are not that assertive, they tend to take rejection always in negativity kaya siguro madaming mahirap mag confess and mag confront.. this is just my opinion...

pensucks: hahaha... masakit ba sa puson? i just want it to be more interactive kaya medyo open ended....hahaha. alibis!!! hahaha...

mink said...

isa sa pinakamahirap na choice dito sa mundo ay ang mamili sa dalwa:

Kaibigan o Ka-ibigan...

been there, hanggang kimkim lang ako, after years and years dun ko lang nasabi, ok lang naman daw, hehe.

pogingpayatot said...

hmmm... it's a difficult situation to be in. lalo na pag di mo trip yung friend mo hehehe.

that happened to me before. everyday sya sumasabay sakin pauwi. then one day, she asked if it's ok to kiss me (sa cheeks lang naman). sabi ko, oks lang. pagtapos nun pinaharurot ko na ng mabilis yung sasakyan. baka kung ano pa hingin. haha. so yun di na kami friends.

actually, wala akong maipapayo. hehehe.

chyng said...

if you like the person: you call it EXPECTED

otherwise: CONFRONTED

Keitaro Hanazawa said...

what if such will happen to you without you expecting it? how will you react? what will you do?

Huwell, pag gusto ko din yung tao, papakipot muna ako ng mga 2 minutes, hehe.:D

Mahiwagang Sibuyas said...

i..

i...

i....

i, i, salidumay.. salidumay diway.

ako'y natuwa sa blog na ito.

panalo ka kapatid!*

Abou said...

bakit ganun, wala pang gumaganun sa kin...

he he


.

the donG said...

depende rin kung gaano ka sincere. bihira mangyari ito. usually sa akin parang yung isa mong ding experience yung dumadaan pa sa ibang tao.

jericho said...

mahirap talagang i-confront ang feelings - others or yours. tulad na lang ng nagtapat ka sa akin. hahahaha. chos!

Anino said...

Sabi ko na nga ba,Jericho.

chyng said...

@keitaro
It's like this analogy:

If someone you like kisses you say he's sweet. But if someone you're not interested to kisses you say he's a maniac! hahaha

Well, another topic na yta to. haha

Ely said...

ayoko na rin muna marinig yan. lagi ko naririnig, pero i can tell kung alin ang totoo sa hindi, :)

amicus said...

anung ganun ba ang gusto mo abou? ehehe. ganunan na!

err... erik...
ammm...

..,pautang din? ehehe

wanderingcommuter said...

mink: yun na nga nag mahirap eh. it took you so many time and guts para sabihin tapos at the end yun lang ang sasabihin.. nakakainis lang din di ba? hahaha.

pogingpayatot: hahaha. atleast nashare mo... di ba? huwaw... ang masama kasi nun may ineexpect kang iba pang hingin... hahaha!!! biro lang.

chyng: funny but true... and i must say im guilty, ni hindi nga ako nakailag eh. hahaha!

keitaro: hahaha... huwaw konserbatibong pilipino. hahaha. uso pa ba ang pakipot sa atin? magandang topic din yun...

mahiwagang sibuyas: hahaha. infairness, gusto ko ang kantang ito at nakatrabaho ko na rin sila... hahaha. salamat!

abou: kaialangan mo siguro kasing humarap sa camera. puro ka lang kasi nakatalikod eh...

the dong: oo nga siguro ganun nga talaga... siguro ang hirap mo mareach kaya kailangan pa ng bridge... huwaw nag rhyme!!!

aaron: dream on!!! hahaha... pinupuna kita!!! hahaha.

anino: maniwala ka jan...

chyng: good point nga actually yun, chyng. natumbok mo halos lahata. tingin ko its a subtle response na rin yun sa pagcoconfess ng isang tao. kung sweet eh di GUSTO ka rin... IKISS mo pa!!! kung sinabihan kang maniac! huwag mu ng palalampasing BUHAY pa siya kinaumagahan...hahaha... biro lang!

ely: huwaw, nakakaririndi na bang madami masyadong nagtatapat sa iyo? hehehe. heartrob ka pala eh, paburger ka naman...
jerjer! jerjer! este burger pala... burger! burger! hahahaha!

amicus: isa ka pa!!! pag uuntugin ko kayo eh! hahaha. brutal!

Will Shady said...

I wouldn't know what to do in that type of situation. But I do know that if you do decide to say something or do something, things won't like how they were.