to start with, i never saw her this happy. for the longest time we have been together, she never left her ex because of the fear that she will never find anyone that will ever make her happy and feel special again. despite her ex blatanty cheating and taking her for granted.
well, we both know that this can be the lamest reason of all reasons before. but in a way i have understood her for its really easy to say otherwise, if you are not in her shoes.
when i graduated, she left the country for spain. she felt too pressured about things around her : her mother, not graduating, her citizenship and moreover because of her ex. although she knew that leaving the country is more of an escapism and not really facing the problem, she still pursued going abroad.
two years after, she met a long lost friend. everything came too fast that the next thing she knew, was they're already with one another. i've met the guy and he has been the most wonderful person that she have met. ofcourse, next to me, that is why my all support is into him. he was the complete opposite of her ex.
he is very caring, passionate, understanding and extremely patient to her severly bratly personality. in a very brief span of time, he have put down his walls and introduce his self without any hesitations. something that my friend and i consider very rare nowadays. in addition, i never thought of someone that could be more patient that could match her brattiness than i am, until he came into the picture. because of him, i realized that there are still hidden personalities about my best friend that i haven't unravelled yet: a very naive, complete, happy, contented and even naughty her.
now, she discovered that her mom is against their relationship and so is her ex, ofcourse. her ex is coming in the country from singapore and about to meet her and try to fix things up again to their already obliverated relationship.
the guy on the other hand, is very worried that he would even text me asking me for my ears and advise. something that i have never experienced from her ex before. and most of all, something that convinced me that she really love my best friend--- as mushy as it may sound.
for the past days, i have closed myself from thinking too much. i treated everything as light as possible: no more rationalizing, no more philosopizing and especially no more emo moments. probably because i have already reach my limit from being an emotional sponge. its more of a self preservation really, if i may use the word. its just that there is too much things going in my mind that are not even mine in the first place. these are the things that makes you realize how you have been spending your life with so many irrelevant and unimportant things lately(atleast in my context). a part of me is ranting and pushing me to realize how pathetic my life has been. while the other side, is appraising me of being such a good friend. now, i am beginning to be confuse with the things happening around me, as if i don't know myself anymore.
yeah it is easy to blame the rain again and even the milk my mother fed me when i was little. but everything is irrelevant now. what is impotant is the lesson i have gained from the experiences and this story i have heard.
my best friend is really torn. she love the guy too much that she is willing to give him up, just for him not to get hurt with the complications of her life or they can both move to another country and start a new life there. but either way, she knew that whatever option she choose, it will still make thingsmore complicated. then out of the story that i have heard and my ow realization in my life, i told her:
"it is alright to commit mistakes sometimes. but it is the biggest mistake not to choose your own happiness."
in a way, although we are only conversing behind our monitor screens, i felt her smile.
they are planning to leave for south korea soon and continue their relationship there, away from all of these complications. they even asked me to join them, atleast for me to enjoy my life with another kind of adventure. but i declined. i told her that i have my own priorities and considerations not because of my family, work and even my studies, but because of my own sanity and fulfillment. and i think i am happy this way.
after our conversation, i realized that these are the moments when i am about to say that: "i never thought that these things can also happen in real life... until to the sequel!"