Wednesday, August 20, 2008

only in movies or so i thought

one of my closest girl friends is planning to go to south korea again together with his current boyfriend. for the basic but most complicated reason that her mother and his ex are coniving in separating her from him.

to start with, i never saw her this happy. for the longest time we have been together, she never left her ex because of the fear that she will never find anyone that will ever make her happy and feel special again. despite her ex blatanty cheating and taking her for granted.

well, we both know that this can be the lamest reason of all reasons before. but in a way i have understood her for its really easy to say otherwise, if you are not in her shoes.

when i graduated, she left the country for spain. she felt too pressured about things around her : her mother, not graduating, her citizenship and moreover because of her ex. although she knew that leaving the country is more of an escapism and not really facing the problem, she still pursued going abroad.

two years after, she met a long lost friend. everything came too fast that the next thing she knew, was they're already with one another. i've met the guy and he has been the most wonderful person that she have met. ofcourse, next to me, that is why my all support is into him. he was the complete opposite of her ex.

he is very caring, passionate, understanding and extremely patient to her severly bratly personality. in a very brief span of time, he have put down his walls and introduce his self without any hesitations. something that my friend and i consider very rare nowadays. in addition, i never thought of someone that could be more patient that could match her brattiness than i am, until he came into the picture. because of him, i realized that there are still hidden personalities about my best friend that i haven't unravelled yet: a very naive, complete, happy, contented and even naughty her.

now, she discovered that her mom is against their relationship and so is her ex, ofcourse. her ex is coming in the country from singapore and about to meet her and try to fix things up again to their already obliverated relationship.

even the image should be movie-like

the guy on the other hand, is very worried that he would even text me asking me for my ears and advise. something that i have never experienced from her ex before. and most of all, something that convinced me that she really love my best friend--- as mushy as it may sound.

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for the past days, i have closed myself from thinking too much. i treated everything as light as possible: no more rationalizing, no more philosopizing and especially no more emo moments. probably because i have already reach my limit from being an emotional sponge. its more of a self preservation really, if i may use the word. its just that there is too much things going in my mind that are not even mine in the first place. these are the things that makes you realize how you have been spending your life with so many irrelevant and unimportant things lately(atleast in my context). a part of me is ranting and pushing me to realize how pathetic my life has been. while the other side, is appraising me of being such a good friend. now, i am beginning to be confuse with the things happening around me, as if i don't know myself anymore.

yeah it is easy to blame the rain again and even the milk my mother fed me when i was little. but everything is irrelevant now. what is impotant is the lesson i have gained from the experiences and this story i have heard.

my best friend is really torn. she love the guy too much that she is willing to give him up, just for him not to get hurt with the complications of her life or they can both move to another country and start a new life there. but either way, she knew that whatever option she choose, it will still make thingsmore complicated. then out of the story that i have heard and my ow realization in my life, i told her:

"it is alright to commit mistakes sometimes. but it is the biggest mistake not to choose your own happiness."

in a way, although we are only conversing behind our monitor screens, i felt her smile.

they are planning to leave for south korea soon and continue their relationship there, away from all of these complications. they even asked me to join them, atleast for me to enjoy my life with another kind of adventure. but i declined. i told her that i have my own priorities and considerations not because of my family, work and even my studies, but because of my own sanity and fulfillment. and i think i am happy this way.

after our conversation, i realized that these are the moments when i am about to say that: "i never thought that these things can also happen in real life... until to the sequel!"

22 comments:

White said...

love knows no bounds. :) 'mushy', in your own words, as it may seem but it's what happened.

amicus said...

the way to a woman's heart is through her bestfriend. nyahaha ;)

gillboard said...

the rain really does bring something heavy on our emotions. i don't know why rain makes people feel sad or lonely...

joaqui_miguel said...

"it is alright to commit mistakes sometimes. but it is the biggest mistake not to choose your own happiness."

I kinda agree with this one. Let's follow our bliss. :)

Abou said...

when happiness is at stake, it's always worth the risk...

RONeiluke, RN said...

"...i am beginning to be confuse with the things happening around me, as if i don't know myself anymore..."

-- hays...dito ako nakakarelate...it's just i am so far from the person i have seen myself to be. a little off track perhaps. it's not about the rain anymore, is it?

Kyogre said...

melodramatic

abs-cbn might be interested in the story, amigo

lethalverses said...

hmm love tends to always be too cliche...

and movies, like advertisements, are meant to be cliche-filled (if there's such a term).

Lance said...

I sometimes experience this too - 'bothered by stuff which are not even your own'.... But imagine a world without your friends. Being a good friend should not be something you must be confused of..
you might be truly bothered by all these happenings with them, right now, but in time surely you'll need them too.. and by then they won't even hesitate to lend you a hand...

smile, even when only your monitor gets to see it...

♥nova-san said...

So the rain makes you depressed, eh? I love the rain. It puts me in the mood... for some things... hahaha! (Read my post titled One Sultry August Night - it's what happens to me when I get rained on)

Anyway... It's good that you're such an emo friend. You make the best kind of friend a person could have. But, you also have to be a friend to yourself, and if you are starting to feel down because of someone else's drama, that's your signal to take a step back, which is what you seemed to have done.

As for your friend, I'm glad that she and her bf are "escaping" to somewhere else. If she gives him up to make others happy, she is denying herself the right to pursue her own happiness, which will lead to her bitterness and resentment towards her family and friends.

I've always thought that you can never make everybody happy, but you can always at least try to make yourself happy.

Marocharim said...

i'll just assume i didn't read this, hehe.

hehe, you know me, i'm a sucker for love stories like this. ;)

hoping for the best.

boying said...

ah. love stories.

love is a word pa rin.

word stories. hmmm. hehe.

dabo said...

im so in love with the rain.. thunderstorm and water are my elements, well self assigned elements.. isang ligo na lang ako na si Storm hahaha

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consistent ang emo moments mo ah.. it is just a phase..

dabo said...

im so in love with the rain.. thunderstorm and water are my elements, well self assigned elements.. isang ligo na lang ako na si Storm hahaha

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consistent ang emo moments mo ah.. it is just a phase..

Mugen said...

"it is alright to commit mistakes sometimes. but it is the biggest mistake not to choose your own happiness."

sana alam ko kung saan ako masaya. :)

dazedblu* said...

Awwww :( Simply I have the same thoughts wit wht are ppl talking abt here.

kalansaycollector said...

well well ang mga conflict nga naman talagang nagpapayanig sa buhay ng mga bida sa pelikula.

the donG said...

"it is alright to commit mistakes sometimes. but it is the biggest mistake not to choose your own happiness."

>>>clap! clap! clap!

blacksoul said...

Akala ko rin eh sa movies lang hindi pala.

Chyng said...

hi ewik!

im here! but im not really back! dumadalaw lang sa blogosphere..

dame ko na namiss sa blog mo.. bsahin ko lahat yan pag-uwe ko samen..

caryn said...

wow, big love story ang dating! ;-)

wanderingcommuter said...

white: i must agree then... i think you have more knowledge and experience when it comes to these things than mine. hehehe.

amicus: ang follow up question dun, paano naman ang lovelife ng best friend? hahaha!

gillboard: probably sometimnes its too gloomy ang sometimes where always stuck on where we are at with no option but to stay... naks! nagjustify.

joaqui: yep. yep, kahit minsan sobrang ang hirap!

abou: ooooohhh... thats another thing to ponder!

ron: ito na marahil ang mga downfall ng mga changes na nangyayari, a more subtle way of saying na tumatanda na tayo!

kyogre: hahaha. don't worry if they are, i am willing to sell it. hahaha!

lethalverses: hahaha. cliche-ic indeed. very cliche-ic! and i hate it!

lance: well, i understand. but sometimes there is such a line as everything should be in moderation.

novasan: you can never make everybody happy, but you can always at least try to make yourself happy.
i love this line. although some might interpret it as something very selfish. its my life to live anyway.
yep! rain really makes me depress and vulnerable. probably because it is quite gloomy and your always stuck in a particular place when it rains.

earlier, i met the two of them and they seemed to be happy together. despite the problem they are facing...
btw, i spoke with uncle larry the other day... hehehe.

marocharim: well, lets just cross our fingers for our friend. it seemed like her problem from going back to school is not yet fixed and here goes another one. i think she's jinxed whenever she is in the philippines... hehehe. peace!

boying: uso ang mga love stories lately. kung nabebenta ko lang ito siguro mayaman na ako. hehehe.

dabo: haaay, nakakahawa ka kasi eh... sana mahawaan din ako ng iyong fondness kapag umuulan.

mugen: naku, habang maaga dapat hinahanap mo na yan kuya joms.

dazed blu: hehehe... words are failing you already? sa susunod agahan mo na. hehehe. joke lang!

kalansay: sinabi mo pa.

the dong: tenchu tenchu. bow...bow

blacksoul: biuin mo nga naman noh...

chyng: teka, ano bang nangyari sa iyo?

caryn: hey, thanks!