Saturday, August 16, 2008

men at work

in a society that we have, even jobs have their own gender. stereotypically speaking, jobs that require extraneous labor are dominated by men. while those that require nurturing and involves an eye to details and arts are perceived to be for women. but as time passed by, with the increasing demand of the market for specific jobs and the lack of it to others and probably even minute societal change, it is safe to say the occupations nowadays, are starting to be gender-neutral. take for example nursing, which was predominantly for women. there is already a large number of male nurses. we also have women laywers and justices who have successfully infiltrated the patriarchal profession. these just to name few.


at work, i can say that we are dominantly males. there are only two women at the very least in a group. in my group, there is only one woman. so often times, she cannot jive into our talks. especially if we are drinking. in a way, i understand her for who woman can, if the cream of the talk is mostly about machismo and sex? although she doesn't talk much or minggle whenever someone ignites the topic of boobs, butts, relationship and sex, i can completely say that i can feel her silent agitation.
our boss is the type of man who easily get distracted whenever a beautiful woman passes by. and it would not pass without him giving a reaction about how he gets a hard on, how he fancies her and how he loves touching and smelling a girl whenever they are near him. well, its just been only a week since we were introduced and working with one another. administratively-wise, i don't have anything against him. though i am not expecting much from him. as long as he will not ask my personal opinion or impression about him, i think we will be able to work well.
rohann is one of my batchmate. he looks younger than his age. but unfortunately, i can say that his mentality and mature level is lower than a newly circumcized teenager. he will not pass giving an irrespectful remark whenever a woman pass his cube. he will whistle to them, give a gasp and even stand in his chair and stare to the poor woman until she disappears in the horizon. there was even a time when he intentionally bump himself towards a girl just to feel her boobs with the excuse that there were so many people passing the same corridor.
until one drinking night, he confessed to us that he has issues being with lesbians because his former wife replaced her for one. everyone felt for him. as if he was the most pitiful being alive. but i felt otherwise. although i know its mean, i think that he deserves it. in the first place, his wife wouldn't replace her with a woman if he have just work their relationship properly and i think i have a good idea what the reason is.
then, we have timothy. he would probably be one of the most arrogant airheads that you'll ever meet. he has this false mindset that if you'll keep on ranting that you're handsome to everyone, the universe will collide and will actually believe on it eventhough you are not. well, probably he haven't heard the line: everything should be in moderation. he treats every women as a display: an object that its only use is to please his carnal desires. when he sees one all he could think of having sex.
he would even boast his experience with a prostitute: that he paid only 1,500 for her. though she is physically worth it. the worst thing was he actually recorded it in his phone.
i am a very patient and understandable person. but if there are things that i could not tolerate those will be people who are sexists and chauvanist pigs. and by now, you'll probably know my impressions toward them. well, let's just hope that my fuse doesn't run out before i resign again.

17 comments:

TENTAY™ said...

ang hirap talaga ng mga arogante at makikitid ang mga utak... hay... paalam muna... sa susunod ulit... =(

PROSETITUTE said...

society, i believe, isnt ready yet for a gear-up. hanggang tingin pa rin sa mga babae ng mga lalaki, o kapwa babae, e babae lamang, walang mangyayari sa atin. never judge people based on what's between their legs. thats stupid. ;)

gillboard said...

hmmm... jerks... kahit saang office naman makakakita ka niyan... pero totoong nakakaapekto nga ang mga kasama sa opisina kung gugustuhin mong manatili o tuluyang iwan ang iyong trabaho.

dak said...

never been in a real job. the nearest experience would be my internship when i was in college. and yeah ive met these kinds of people as well, not to mention our bosses especially the doctors.

but i handled the diversity very well, i guess. it was never considered a work place problem to me.

♥nova-san said...

I think.... that is the most mad that I've read you thus far. Resigning, however, won't change those people. You will just end up without a job, and they'll still be the same sexist pigs that they always were.

But seriously, I understand your thinking. But unfortunately, we cannot control what others do - we can only control how we react to them. In this case, in the end, they will get what they all deserve (such as your friend whose wife left him for a woman).

Karma works in mysterious ways.

RONeiluke, RN said...

hays...same here...i hate people like that. pigs. that is what they really are...hays...

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hays...yeah i know...ok na naman ako...sana lang may pambili ako ng chocolate di ba? hehe! thanks!

nagbabagangpagnanasa said...

i just cant stop myself from reading more.. saludo ako sayo!

im feeling so down because of pressure of having a job after passing the"pambansang kurso-nursing" licensure exam. yes, rn na ako. but since there is no local oppurtunity for me, after 2 months of grabeng paghahanap, i planned to apply sa "pambansang trabaho-call center agent".

after reading some of your blogs..now im more down..

what happened to me? i am now doing what everybody else do..
i asked myself, "dude, where are your dreams? those fire that flamed when you were younger? you wanted more, where is the courage now that it is needed badly?"

haha.
sumasabay na ako sa agos ng ilog na noon pa man ay pinipilit ko nang alisan.
nasaan na kaya ang apoy nang aking pagnanasa?
itanim ko na nuon pa man ang tagumpay sa buo kong lakbayin.
kailangan ko ng kumilos bago pa man balutin ng yelo ang buo kong pagkatao.

odin hood said...

kainis naman mga yun!

Lance said...

i may not be able to really point this out, but i think men do that to impress. other than, of course, if manyak talaga cla.
i admit, i may sometimes think that way too, but i know how to keep those wild thoughts running only within the premises my uncanny mind...
I also tend to tell it to a friend, or even sometimes to my GF, when i get those kind of thoughts. but of course, parang in a way of appreciating one's beauty lang, hindi yung the manyak way.

off the topic...
I can still vividly remember when I was asked about what my fetish is when it comes to sex. I was left wondering what it was so I started to assess myself..
hmmmm...
actually i'm still choosing among many possible answers right now...
hahahahahaha

Kiks said...

i remember a friend almost losing her sanity when her closest friends made her to choose between a man and a woman.

she is bisexual.

(don't resign. if it is not in your job description, don't aim at changing or even arguing with them.)

Bino/Geno said...

Hmm. Wag ka na magresign. Mahirap makahanap ng trabaho. Hehe. And besides all jungles have snakes. Or any other animal we don't like for that matter.

Hhuntingin nga kita sa katipunan. Hehe. Malapit naman sa blue school.

Kyogre said...

we're all such id being, us men.

Kyogre said...

"being" and beings, both

Mugen said...

Sa office namin, it's the females who rule. Yung mga chauvinist dito hindi nagsusurvive, kasi bukod sa kelangan nila makisama sa babae, significant rin ang gay and lesbian population namen. Hehe.

Blacksoul said...

He has issues with his Lesbos because he aint man enough thats why.

I never had issues with my workmates but they had issues with me[I think].

Resign?Again?

These people should be terminated.

Anino said...

Huwag kang umalis. May araw din yan.

KRIS JASPER VAN DYKE said...

I must say that due to a large number of male nurses now, people stopped looking at nurse's gender.

My dad's nurse as well, and he said it was hard during their time.