Thursday, December 18, 2008

why do i like fishes part 2

six years ago, i walked inside our apartment carrying a box of hard glass filled with water and fishes. i remembered i felt bringing back memories of childhood that day that i have decided to buy myself an aquarium, a pair of gold fishes and a water snake. i was so amazed with what i bought that i can't take my eyes off of it. i even thought of buying water plants, more colorful pebbles that would add up to its texture, filters, light bulbs that would intensify the colors inside and more fishes. i wanted my set up to be one of the most elegant aquariums there will ever be. the type of set up that would beat those aquariums in fish museums.

suddenly, one of my housemates noticed that i couldn't stop myself from feeding the fishes with fish pellets. he approached my aquarium and warned me not to overfeed it. it might bloat and kill the fishes. so obviously, i stopped. then he added, "someone once told me that if you'll be able to maintain all your fishes alive, this would tell you that you are already prepared to enter a relationship." i was literally left clueless with what he have said. what does maintaining an aquarium has to do with having a relationship? he just smiled back at me and went inside his room.
a couple of weeks after, the fishes and the water snake died. i never bought another aquarium again because of depression. i just trained myself to be contended with watching them in animal planet.

special thanks to kuya joms for the two tetras and 3 red mollies. i am still accepting for sponsors. hehehe.

but now, i bought myself another set up. while i was changing the water of the aquarium for the third time this week, i have realized the effort that i have put into it. the things that i need to buy like water coditioner, filters etc. just to keep the water clean and the fishes alive. then i remembered what my former housemate told me. i am now getting what he is actually pointing out. entering a relationship is just like having and maintaining an aquarium. sometimes we are so amazed with the idea without really understanding the effort and investments that it needs. thus, most of the time, we sensationalize relationships. we just keep on saying that we need to have a boyfriend or girlfriend just for the heck of having one. we are delighted with the picture of romance, partnership, commitment and even sex without actually looking what is underneath it. the worst part of this is, it takes our heart to be broken first before we can realize these things hiding beneath the surface. believe me, i know. for i had my own share of the deal and hoping it would not happen anymore.


the bottomline story is we are all kids desperately wanting a new pet because they are cute, we want to cuddle them, take care of them and what have you. but without really considering our readiness in carrying on the responsibility. thus, this eventually lead us in getting ourselves depress while watching our pet die.

18 comments:

Bino/Geno said...

Waw ang cute naman. :)

mel beckham said...

i never liked fish as pests, esteh pets. lol

actually i don't like pets or animals. unless they are edible and served in a plate posible ko pa silang ma-like. lol

Mugen said...

So kapag nabuhay ko yung mga halaman ko sa labas ng bahay, ready na rin ako sa relationship?

Seriously, it's a profound entry.

Btw, masakit ang suntok mo ha!

Lance said...

i also had a small aquarium before.. when one of the fishes will die, me and my other cousins would bury them to the ground with a small cross made of two sticks and a set of small flowers.. then we would offer our prayers... yet it is still very depressing..

dak said...

owell, i couldn't. i will try again soon, a bowl type aquarium cud fit perfectly well here in our humble apartment.

Luis Batchoy said...

i used to have flower horns. Super excited ako dahil maliliit pa ang when I got them tapos unti unti na lumaabas yung chinese character sa scales nila...

then I got to go on a lecture series trip

patay na nung bumalik ako...

huhuhu

yanah said...

a friend once told me the same thing.....all i can say is: hindi yun totoo.. hahahaha
m3rry christmas!

marco said...

now I'm thinking, I'd like to have fish pet too.. even in a fish bowl


>>marco

Chyng said...

really? ganun pala yun. kaya pala as much as i wanted an aquarium di ako bumibili for myself. meaning... hahaha

gillboard said...

parang natakot naman ako mag-alaga ng isda ngayon niyan... balak ko pa naman next year bumili ng aquarium...

lethalverses said...

i'm an animal lover...

but it's ironic that the ONLY visual thing (cge, isama na ang ghosts) in the world that I feared is SPIDER.

hmmm magandang metaphor yan... fishes and relationship...

we tend to be excited for new fishes in our tank...

and seldom learned to love them for their whole life.

MATANONG KITA PAREKOY:

ano ang pipiliin mong ilagay sa bedroom mo at sa sala mo:

a fishbowl containing a single fish, or a tank containing tens of fishes?

Tristan Tan said...

I have a fish named Paris - a flowerhorn that has been with me for more than two years! ;)

Mr. Scheez said...

You like fishes because watching them is therapeutic for you. Hehehe =)

dabo said...

your different now. i am proud of you.

Niel Camhalla said...

ganda ng aquarium mo.

nung bata ako may aquarium din ako gawa sa garapon ng milo. nilagyan ko ng buhangin at mga isda na galing sa sapa. :)

sabi nila mabuti daw sa mga bata magkaroon ng pets. natuto daw sila magnurture. but you taking it to the relationship level is great. :)

"we sensationalize relationships"

blame the romantics. hehehe.

odin hood said...

i used to pet two turtles...they were well taken care of for a few years until one day dead na sila out of neglect. nakalimutan ko na kasi sila pakaininin at paliguan hehe

Allen Yuarata said...

but then again, whenever you make mistakes, you learn from it. Consider it a lesson. Just try and try until you get it right. Ganun din sa relationship. No matter how well you know that you are prone to getting hurt, you still try again.

Your pets will still die eventually. And you'll be upset again and you will buy another one again. Nagkakatalo lang yan sa kung gaano katagal mo sila napanatiling buhay.

Toilet Thoughts said...

Never ako naging magaling sa mga pets. Workaholik kasi minsan. Pero ngayon me aso ako. hmmmmm. Ang kulet nmn ng correlation ng pagkakaroon ng pet sa pagkakaroon ng relationship.

So... aantayin ko sa isa mong post na nagka aquarium na buhay mo (me ralasyong nabuo na)?