Thursday, June 11, 2009

kapag lahat gusto maging bida

at the end, ink and paper, february 2008



ganito ata nga talaga sa maynila, magastos ang magkaroon ng kaibigan, lalo na nang makakausap

...nang nakikinig na kausap.


naniniwala ako na ang ugat ng lahat ng problema ng tao ay ang kawalan natin ng inisyatib na makinig. gusto natin lagi tayong pinakikinggan. gusto natin lagi tayo ang bida. feeling natin, tayo lang ang may problema, na mas mabigat ang ating problema. kaya siguro walang nagkakaintindihan. kasi lahat gusto magsalita. kasi lahat gustong mapakinggan. subalit hindi naman handang makinig.

minsan, naalala ko ang dati kong trainor. sabi niya, with his napakaarteng american accent. there is a big difference between hearing and listening. nang tinanong namin kung ano, its for us to find out daw.
dahil mahina ako sa ingles, trinanslate ko sa isip ko. saka ko nagets. malaki nga naman talaga ang kinaibahan ng naririnig sa nakikinig, di ba?

pansinin mo, kapag magkikita-kita kayong magkakaibigan, alamin mo kung sino ang tahimik na nakikinig lang. yung tipong hinding-hindi siya magbubutt-in kapag may taong nagsasalita. yung hahayaan niyang matapos ka sa gusto mong sabihin. panigurado kapag hiningi mo ang payo niya tungkol sa problema mo, siya lang ang makapagbibigay sa iyo ng pinakamaganda at desenteng sagot. kasi siya lang naman talaga ang nakinig sa iyo.
hay, naisip ko, ang mahal na nga magkaroon ng kaibigan dito. hindi mo pa alam kung makikinig pa siya sa iyo.
ang hirap talaga kapag lahat gustong maging bida.

22 comments:

Niel Camhalla said...

Ako gusto ko maging kontra bida!

Minsan naman kasi yung ibang nagpapadinig e nadinig ko na dati pa. Sirang plaka lang ang dating. O kaya alingawngaw.

Kung may tamang paraan ng pakikinig, may tamang paraan din para madinig.

Don't blame the listener. Blame the speaker. LOL.

mikel said...

yung iba gusto maging kontra-bida. :)

gillboard said...

di naman...siguro di mo ka pa lang nakakakilala ng mga taong marunong makinig... madami dyan... baka di mo lang napapansin...

DN said...

si ruby. starring angelica panganiban.


ang bidang kontrabida. bwahahaha.

Tonskie said...

kamusta naman un? nakarelate ako ha..

the geek said...

no comment ako. hehehe

basta, i like the "skits"...

bampiraako said...

ayoko ng limelight. haha

usap tayo. bidang bida ka sa akin. Malaki ata mga tainga ko. haha

cool nga ng drawing. Galing!

ACRYLIQUE said...

Kay SELENA (Princess Punzalan) pa rin ako:

"PAPATAYIN KO KAYONG LAHAT! HAHAHAHA"

dylan dimaubusan said...

Ganda ng post mo.. Sobrang naka-relate ako, although di kasi ako madalas maghanap ng makakausap ngayon , lately kasi mas sensible kausap ang sarili ko, nyahahaha!

Kaya nga dalawang tenga at iisang bibig ang ginawa ng Diyos para sa tao. Imagine kung dalawa ang bibig at iisang tenga, I can't imagine!!!

Malalim daw mag-isip ang mga listener, sila yung mga absorber at observer, alam nila when to speak and when to listen. What to say and how to say it, mas calm. Sabi nila, good listener daw ako, I tend to talk kapag kailangan. Mahirap naman kung salita ng salita wala namang laman.

Sabi nga ni Gill, marami jan, hanapin mo lang mga taong sensible kausap.^__^

Najua Scribbles said...

Tila nga ba't uso pa din ang quote na "Eto piso. Bumili ka ng kausap mo." :p

Haay naku.. dami talagang ganyan.. ayaw makinig.. puro bibig lang na tinubuan ng mukha.. hahahaha

The Green Man said...

"sino ang tahimik na nakikinig lang. yung tipong hinding-hindi siya magbubutt-in kapag may taong nagsasalita. yung hahayaan niyang matapos ka sa gusto mong sabihin. panigurado kapag hiningi mo ang payo niya tungkol sa problema mo, siya lang ang makapagbibigay sa iyo ng pinakamaganda at desenteng sagot. kasi siya lang naman talaga ang nakinig sa iyo."

This is the exact same impression I got when we first met... and frankly, you gave the best answer to E's question.

KUDOS! to you my friend :-D

lazy john said...

hehehe nice post... hmmm bkit naman mahal?? kelangan bang bayaran para makinig sa io? meron dyan sa tabi tabi... kalabit ka lang dyan hehehe

Turismoboi said...

buti na lang contrabida ako ever zince

Chyng said...

True! Kasi mas sila yung nakinig. Yung iba naghihintay lang ng tyempo para humirit! haha

Pero I prefer yung pa-bida. Kakapagod ikaw lang kwento ng kwento ha.

kiel estrella said...

kasi rin naman there's a stigma to just listening. sa mga meeting, conference o kwentuhan na tumahimik lang ako at nakinig, people actually tell me or insinuate that:

- i have nothing to say
- i have inferiority complex
- i'm being defensive
- i don't care
- i was asleep

and even when none of these were true, i wonder if i could have avoided the negative impression if i just said something.

just a thought - in defense of the talker

Yj said...

wapak.....

kontrabida all the way....

pero seryoso.... ako kausapin mo, makikinig ako hehehehehehe

.pOot! said...

don't worry!

andito ako...


ang kaibigang 'PRICELESS'. wahehe.

seryoso na. sang-ayon ako sa comment ni gillboard. siguro di ka pa nakakahanap nung taong handang makinig.

iagosmom said...

communication is key to any relationship..

love,
nobe

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www.iamnobe.wordpress.com

Dagger Deeds said...

Hehehe... it's always good to have a listening ear na kaibigan. Pero syempre give and take yun. I believe friends should take turns on who'll be the listening ear.

Tsaka lahat naman tayo iniisip natin hero tayo ng sarili nating kwento. Well, in my case, antihero. :-)

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