Saturday, May 30, 2009

what soberness conceals, drunkenness reveals

"when is the best time to confess that your positive to the person you are dating?"

"after the first kiss?"

everyone laughed.

"as soon as possible," a friend and i chorally answered.


honestly, i was also surprised with my response. for after months and months of contemplating everything about it, i couldn't believe that i would be able to finally draw out a spontaneous answer, which usually take me a long time before.

it all begun in that party. in the middle of free flowing booze and beer-soaked pizza and tacos, someone threw out that question. but in all fairness, despite the loud band music and everyone busily minding their own businesses..."ehem"... businesses, it successfully got every body's attention.

for the first time, i was overwhelmed with the fact that after a long time of avoiding the topic, i was actually caught off guardedly sitting on a table of several people openly talking about it; and was able to engage myself on such discussion. for most of the time, i would either asked to change the topic or just keep quiet until we move on to the next.

"is it really that easy?," he asked.

"well for me, if someone who is positive won't be able to own it, then how much more will he expect the person he is dating to accept that fact?" i answered, " i think if you really like the person, what he has shouldn't really define who he is. on the other hand, when it comes to that, i believe that there are actually a hundred ways to actualize it without getting infected. in the first place, it shouldn't really all about that, right?"

a sudden pause engulfed us. then he softly lifted and moved the topic as if a plate of nachos to his friend sitting beside him.

"well, i just don't get it why people like him, who is so faithful to his partner despite my efforts to sway him to cheat around would actually get it?"

then there was another silence. suddenly, i saw his friend rebutting something out of what he have said but i failed to catch it.

nonetheless, my night fast forwarded with what he said. then, i taught how wide the possibilities can be, how large the chances are and just because of one or a number of mistake, something will inevitably change.

so much for change being the only constant thing in life, huh?!

then as i carry myself to bed, i closed my eyes and told myself not to forget to appreciate the next day ahead.

18 comments:

efrenefren said...
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efrenefren said...

pero naniniwala ako dun sa as soon as possible na sagot. kasi pag masyadong mong pinatagal dadating kayo sa point na hanggang magkaibigan lang kayo at hindi na pwedeng maging kayo. :)

DN / DeathNote said...

as soon as possible din. i think malaki ang magiging impact nun sa isang relasyon...

amicus said...

kelan nga ba? it just happens kasi, e. pag fit, fit talaga.
re quoting, sige lang. :) thanks for appreciating. [btw, hindi ako magaaprove ng comments dun sa post na yun, pero sige comment lang] :D

cb :: 林偉文 said...

feeling ko asap din.. some friends and i were talking about this recently.. parang would you go into a relationship with someone na positive.. magulo parin isip ko about it.

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The Green Man said...

Most of the time, especially when your negative (or do not know your actual status), it's easiest to say "as soon as possible".... or when someone opens up to you that they are possies, you don't intend to, but forget all the emotions involve and just stop right there and call it friendship nalang. Because of fear? Lack of knowledge? I don't know? I never did care to know.

But when you're the one who had to say it... every moments - and i say "moments" - counts. Any sooner or any later makes a lot of difference...depending on the level of psyche the person your telling it to.

I've told it to several guys an luckily I got good receptions... or was it because i was flashing my sweet smile? hahaha!

I liked your answer to the question that night. I don't know what to say but THANKS.

Let's talk about it more next time we meet.

<*period*>; said...

KUYA, para sa akin, dapat asap.

pero hindi dapat pilitin ang isang positive na magsalita lalo pa kung hindi pa niya kaya

mahirap harapin yung ganyan, i know, kasi i had a friend who's positive, tapos ang tagal bago niya inamin sa akin

sa ngayon ay nasa amerika na siya...

gillboard said...

hmmmm... good question...

Anonymous said...

i say you give both yourself a chance..as what i've been telling you, who knows, who knows....


remember the pie...hehehe

Victor Gregor said...

it's always the day after today that keeps us hoping for the best. :)

bampiraako said...

"when is the best time to confess that your positive to the person you are dating?"

.. Kinabukasan..kapag ala ka nang amats at naalala mo pa rin ang taong nakadate mo. Gaya nga ng title ng entry mo: "what soberness conceals, drunkenness reveals"

..Nakikipagkulitan lang. hehe. Basta, "don't forget to appreciate the next day ahead." hehe

Yj said...

ASAP.... kasi asap daw silang lahat...

CHOZ.....

bulitas said...

hmm interesting point there my friend.

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