Wednesday, June 6, 2012

a realist take on hope


They say hope is important to keep one going. It keeps him centered and focused with a certain aspiration of eventually achieve something; despite the sheer absence of its possibilities and/or presence of obstacles and challenges.

Hope fuels persuasion and hard work but at the same time it can also prolong agonies and sorrows. Hence, it makes one wonder, where do you draw that line between still hoping and finally surrendering and move on?    

Most of the time, what makes moving on difficult is no longer the feelings you have or had with the person rather it is more into one’s confrontation with change. Our attachments with patterns and routines have chained us within the comfort zone that we have built together with that person.  

Bottomline: we are just scared of what is ahead--- alone; that for the first time again, we are subject to this fear of starting over and going back to square one. And regreting everything we had invested, gained and practically, enjoyed. At the end, it makes us restless realizing that the feeling is a concoction of both that nagging fear and concentrated frustration that chain us from something we kept refusing to admit as over.   

Sometimes, concern to that person is no longer brought about by what many ‘believed’ to be affection, but more of an unconscious effort of one’s sense of self-preservation to justify hope and simply avoid change.     

But before people start identifying me more of a pessimist rather than a realist, I guess, my point being is  one needs to realize that its no longer hope if it hurts, that it is no longer hope if the mutual journey "now," is vaguer than its initial destination. People should know when to know if the hope for that relationship is already exhausted and when the building of another hope timely begins.  

13 comments:

Nate said...

a realist's point of view, eh? hmm.. so that explains why, when i said you're an optimist, you kind of deflected the idea.. :) ikaw na ang realist!! :)

MEcoy said...

hope is the only free thing left for us to cherish it wasn't like waiting for things to be great or what but its somehow like hoping for something better and your right it'll drive you to push even more

but don't forget to appreciate what you have now coz sometimes hope is being a wall of expectation that you dont get to see what life has given you

wanderingcommuter said...

nate: hahahaha... napansin mo din pala yun. yeap, i am. for me, being an optimist opens the danger of setting expectations--- frustrations.

Mecoy: definitely, but i beg to disagree that it is the only thing free. because then you are inconflict with what you said on the second, not to forget appreciating other things.

there are still other things for free such as dream, goodwill, smile, laughter, excitement... regardless of how the material world will produce products that would induce these artificially. pure emotions are still free....

:-)

rudeboy said...

This entry resonated with me so, so much, Ewik.

Thanks for this.

wanderingcommuter said...

the entry is actually intended for a friend. Im glad it also made its way to you. be well rude boy. i miss our debates! LOL

citybuoy said...

Epekto ba ito ng pagigi mong patron saint of the heartbroken lately? :) You're a good man, Ewik. It's posts like this where you're being such a good friend clearly shows. :)

wanderingcommuter said...

natawa ako sa patron saint of the heartbroken... tae ka! LOL! bakit kelangan mo din ba ng patron saint o nakapag move on na? hahahaha

citybuoy said...

Move on na move on na! Huli ka na sa balita. Di na kasi tayo nakakapag-tsismisan. :p

wanderingcommuter said...

busy ka na kasi... ganyan ba kapag promoted? HAHAHAHA!

Yas Jayson said...

The truth is, we are all initially afraid of the dark, of the void, of the unseen.

wanderingcommuter said...

i agree yas!

citybuoy said...

Aba aba aba ikaw itong nakakaahon na sa buhay. Pa-tsaa ka naman!

wanderingcommuter said...

hahahaha! pa-moonleaf ka nga!