They say hope is important to keep one going. It keeps him centered and focused
with a certain aspiration of eventually achieve something; despite the sheer absence
of its possibilities and/or presence of obstacles and challenges.
Hope fuels persuasion and hard work but at the same time it can also prolong
agonies and sorrows. Hence, it makes one wonder, where do you draw that line
between still hoping and finally surrendering and move on?
Most of the
time, what makes moving on difficult is no longer the feelings you have or had
with the person rather it is more into one’s confrontation with change. Our attachments
with patterns and routines have chained us within the comfort zone that we have
built together with that person.
Bottomline: we
are just scared of what is ahead--- alone; that for the first time again, we are
subject to this fear of starting over and going back to square one. And regreting everything we had invested, gained and practically, enjoyed. At the end,
it makes us restless realizing that the feeling is a concoction of both that
nagging fear and concentrated frustration that chain us from something we kept
refusing to admit as over.
Sometimes, concern
to that person is no longer brought about by what many ‘believed’ to be
affection, but more of an unconscious effort of one’s sense of self-preservation
to justify hope and simply avoid change.
But before
people start identifying me more of a pessimist rather than a realist, I guess,
my point being is one needs to realize that
its no longer hope if it hurts, that it is no longer hope if the mutual journey
"now," is vaguer than its initial destination. People should know when to know if
the hope for that relationship is already exhausted and when the building of another
hope timely begins.
13 comments:
a realist's point of view, eh? hmm.. so that explains why, when i said you're an optimist, you kind of deflected the idea.. :) ikaw na ang realist!! :)
hope is the only free thing left for us to cherish it wasn't like waiting for things to be great or what but its somehow like hoping for something better and your right it'll drive you to push even more
but don't forget to appreciate what you have now coz sometimes hope is being a wall of expectation that you dont get to see what life has given you
nate: hahahaha... napansin mo din pala yun. yeap, i am. for me, being an optimist opens the danger of setting expectations--- frustrations.
Mecoy: definitely, but i beg to disagree that it is the only thing free. because then you are inconflict with what you said on the second, not to forget appreciating other things.
there are still other things for free such as dream, goodwill, smile, laughter, excitement... regardless of how the material world will produce products that would induce these artificially. pure emotions are still free....
:-)
This entry resonated with me so, so much, Ewik.
Thanks for this.
the entry is actually intended for a friend. Im glad it also made its way to you. be well rude boy. i miss our debates! LOL
Epekto ba ito ng pagigi mong patron saint of the heartbroken lately? :) You're a good man, Ewik. It's posts like this where you're being such a good friend clearly shows. :)
natawa ako sa patron saint of the heartbroken... tae ka! LOL! bakit kelangan mo din ba ng patron saint o nakapag move on na? hahahaha
Move on na move on na! Huli ka na sa balita. Di na kasi tayo nakakapag-tsismisan. :p
busy ka na kasi... ganyan ba kapag promoted? HAHAHAHA!
The truth is, we are all initially afraid of the dark, of the void, of the unseen.
i agree yas!
Aba aba aba ikaw itong nakakaahon na sa buhay. Pa-tsaa ka naman!
hahahaha! pa-moonleaf ka nga!
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